If you’ve read my last blog post you know by now I was raised by a strong willed single mother. I am one of six children, however I got lucky because I am part of a pair. I was lucky to be born with my twin sister with me. Someone to navigate this world with and feel less alone. As mentioned previously my mother worked a lot, she wasn’t the most present and when she was physically around she was emotionally absent. Yes I’ve forgiven that and other behaviors (not all of them) but you learn to move on from them and not hold them over someone else.

But last year I came to the realization if I hadn’t been born with my twin I would have literally been alone. Emotionally, physically, and mentally. No one to walk next to or get comfort from. As children when she was sick I was her helper then I would get sick and she became my helper. Up to putting each other’s shoes before school. Always dress the same, look for each other in a crowded room in school, know when one another was feeling sad and be there to comfort her.

As teens unfortunately, the natural competition kicked in and would start to cause a rift. But we began to ‘slightly’ find our own identities. I will go in more deeply into each one of my siblings personality traits in another blog post. But she always looked to fit in and got extra done up at school while I looked cute but made sure my grades were always good and had no problem passing my SAT’s. I never found my sister as competition she was my sister, till this day I support her and cheer her on in everything she does. But I do wish I could say the same on her end. Even then I don’t ever hold anything against her. We are on two different paths and goals. I still view her as my best friend and at the moment the only person I can confide in.

I am one of those people that beliefs everything does happen for a reason, for better or for worse. God has his hands in everything. He knew we were arriving into a disheveled home not filled with love so he brought us together. To be there for one another, when feeling “alone’ especially as children to receive comfort from each other, and to heal the other. I know now deep in my soul that was definitely no accident especially since twins weren’t hereditary one either side of our parents genetics. We were brought into this universe as a pair and for that I am forever grateful.

She’s the only one that really knows me because whether we like to admit it or not we are very much alike. Life of course gets tense and stressful but we truly know how to balance and regulate one another out. “Twinny!!!” when I see her from afar waiting for me at our dinner spot for our “twinster-dates”. Or our sassy remarks agains each other when we’re annoyed but yet have learned to not take shit so serious.

So thank you God for bringing me into this Earth with my other half next to me. For making my life, especially my childhood a little less lonely. Making me realize at a very young age it is okay to look for someone else for help. We do need partnerships in life, however that may look like for you it is a normal human need. We weren’t meant to be loners in life and this current “lonely, friendless epidemic” is actually not helping anybody. So please go find your other half, bff, or side kick. However you want to define them they’re out there. Twinny, thank you for being with me from the beginning of our existence. I love you and am for ever grateful for you.

-Love KD